A practice of many Buddhists is to be unattached to the notion of the way things are ‘supposed to be’. If tears come, then there they are. They need not say to themselves “I am supposed to be detached from transience of life and death”. If they cry, then they cry. That is their true detachment. They do not suppress or avoid the tears, and neither do they indulge them. Such is the Middle Way.
Many things may bring forth tears. Love. Saying goodbye. Being sad to see something so beautiful change into something we no longer recognize.
The point isn’t to hold to beliefs in order to avoid the vividness of being alive. Rather, the Buddhist teachings are meant to urge us into direct rawness with the immediacy of living.
People often mistake concepts of detachment and serenity for something that is removed from the human condition. But that is because they have no direct understanding of it for themselves. It is only their minds that spin such philosophizing.
Real detachment and peace delivers us from the egoic attempts to control life and brings us back into the heart of what it means to be human, which is nothing other than the living essence of a wakeful mind and heart.
Namaste :) much love